Kiss Her, You Fool!

Have you ever read a romance or watched a movie where a character wants to kiss or be kissed, but...they don't?

Didn't you want to shout, "Kiss her you fool."

I saw that very scene in a rerun of The Big Bang Theory recently when Amy's date said that to Sheldon. 

A KISS IS JUST A KISS

Yes, that's what Herman Hupfeld wrote, "A kiss is just a kiss," in the song, As Time Goes By, the love song from the movie Casablanca. But a kiss isn't just a kiss, is it? We learn early in life how to give kisses. When we're small children, we freely give kisses to mommy and daddy.

"Give me some sugar," Grandma says, and we delightfully kiss her cheek and hug her then squeal as she hugs us back.

When we get older, we learn there are different kinds of kisses. Kisses we give and take from our first puppy love crush. Then, a bit later, we learn another type of kiss—those drenched with passion and fueled by desire. Kisses like that are magical.

HUMAN INTIMACY

In 1971, Desmond Morris published Intimate Behavior: A Zoologist's Classic Study of Human Intimacy. In that book, he discusses the 12 steps of human intimacy. 

He designated The Kiss, or Mouth to Mouth Intimacy, as step 7. Morris doesn't describe that step in escalating intimacy as magical, but it is.

That's why so much attention is given to The Kiss in a romance novel. It's an important step in the growing relationship between the heroine and hero. 

By the first kiss, the couple in question are acting on their desire, and they're curious as to how that kiss will make them feel. Will it knock their socks off or put the damper on their growing desire?

Obviously, much depends on that kiss. If it increases their desire, which it should, then they face the problem of backing away from each other if there are circumstances that keep them apart. 

Of course, they may, for their own reasons, disavow the effects of the kiss. After all, a romance is all about overcoming obstacles to achieve a worthy goal – each other.

TAKEAWAY TRUTH

Do you have a favorite first kiss scene in a book or movie? Leave a comment and share.

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