6 Steps to Fake It Till You Make It

We live in the NOW, but we want something different TOMORROW, but YESTERDAY often holds us back.

Does that describe you?

Do you want more out of life? Do you want to be MORE...whatever that may mean?

Some people struggle to even believe they can make their dreams come true. They can't see themselves as any more than what they are today.

Those are the people that need to heed the advice often spouted in humor: "Fake it till you make it." They don't know that really means to imagine that person who does something amazing and to act like that person. 

One must create a greater vision of self before it will ever become reality. The easiest way to do that is by acting like that person you want to be. To fake it until it's true in reality. "But," you ask. "How do I fake something like that?"

What follows is my advice to someone who wants to be a writer. Simply change the "writing" to whatever you want out of your life.

7 Steps to Help You Fake It Until You Make It

Step 1: Create Self-Talk That Expresses the You in the Future

Do things like look in the mirror as you're getting ready for the day and say, "I would like to thank the Readers who made this possible by buying so many books that I was catapulted onto the New York Times bestsellers list."

Or, "I'd like to thank the movie's producers for this Academy award because they took my book and adapted it for this movie." Or, whatever addresses your particular big dream.

Step Two: Dress for the Success you want.

It's no lie that when you work from a home office, you tend to dress comfortably or as in many cases, like a slob. 

Instead, try dressing comfortably as well as attractively. You may be surprised that you'll accomplish more if you look a little more professional. 

Step Three: Act AS IF you have already achieved your dream.

How would you act if  you were already living that life you dream about? Would you be more optimistic? More at peace with everything and everyone? Would you be calmer and less stressed? Act that way when you become frustrated or annoyed. Be that you, not the past you who's easily upset.

Step Four: Speak AS IF you are the future you.

Avoid speaking negativity. Always speak with optimism about your work, your dream, your daily routine. Have a conversation with someone about the work you're doing toward that big dream. Envision completing the work and the rewards that will come your way.

Step Five: Act By Doing 1 Tiny Task Every Day

Many people can't get going on their dreams or can't continue working toward it because they set an unrealistic task for themselves each day. 

Let's get real. Instead of saying, "I'm going to write 1,000 words every day," say, "I'm going to write for 10 minutes each day." That's it. Ten minutes is easy.

Anyone can do it. It's set to be easy because getting started is the hardest action to take every day. Once you've overcome the inertia and started, you'll keep going.

Step Six: Review

When the day is done, review the day. What did you do? What did you say to yourself? What did you say to others? 

How did you feel after interacting with someone in which you acted like "future you?" 

How did you feel after doing your Tiny Task? Did you go past that Tiny Task? 

Most important of all, did you make progress? Do you feel empowered to do the same tomorrow? 

TAKEAWAY TRUTH

Use these 6 Steps whenever you need them. Keep a vision of your future self always in your mind. Go forth and conquer!


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Saturday Share Recipe - Summer Squash Fry

When I was a kid, my Dad planted a huge garden every summer. When the Yellow Crookneck Squash started producing, we had enough to supply the entire neighborhood.

My Mom always cooked that delightful yellow squash, called Summer Squash by many, and made it so delicious that there were never any leftovers. We always preferred yellow squash over zucchini.

My husband's grandmother cooked squash in a similar fashion with a few additions that gave it added texture and flavor. Next week, I'll give Granny Smith's recipe.

But today, I'll tell you how my Mom cooked it and made it so delicious. Serves 6-8.

SUMMER SQUASH FRY

Ingredients

  • 2 pounds of yellow squash, sliced in rounds
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground black pepper
  • 4 strips of bacon
  • 1 small bell pepper, any color, diced
  • 1 medium to large onionm diced
Directions
1. Fry the bacon until crisp, remove to a paper towel and crumble the bacon.

2. In the fat that was rendered from the bacon, saute the bell pepper and onion until translucent. Remove and save to add back in a bit.

3. Add the sliced squash to the pan and stir fry over medium to high heat until the squash is softened. 
Add the bell pepper and onion back to the frying pan and continue cooking so that the onion begins to caramelize. Sprinkle with salt and black pepper to taste.

4. Add the crumbled bacon to the squash. Serve hot. 

TAKEAWAY TRUTH

I love vegetables because I grew up eating them fresh from the garden. Produce in stores can't hold a candle to fresh from the garden. That's why I always have a kitchen garden.

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Happy Friday - Laughter For You

End the work week with a laugh that, for a romance author, sounds like inspiration for a romcom!

I made the Quote Graphic so you could copy and print it if you wish.

This comes from Sally Poplin, who isn't a "real" person.

Sally Poplin is a fictitious humorist often cited in British and international books of quotations.

"She" is best known for witty one-liners about marriage, modern dating, and personal finance.

Now you know if you see quotations allegedly by Sally Poplin, that she is a made-up person. 

TAKEAWAY TRUTH 

Who do you think is the wit behind her—a real person or an AI entity?

Thursday3Some - 3 Tips To Train Your Focus

If you're like me and behind on everything AND feeling as if there are a dozen high priority things you should be doing BUT you don't know where to start, here are...

3 TIPS TO TRAIN YOUR FOCUS

1. Make a list of every single thing you think you should do. Write it down, don't just think about it and so your brain is spinning around.

2. Look at the list—I mean really look at it. Now, go item by item on the list and mark everything that needs to be done right now—today—with a big N. 

Anything that can be done by the end of  the weekend, mark L for Later.

Anything that really isn't crucial, but it would be nice to do it before the month is over, mark O for Optional.

3. Take your list and write it again. That's right curate your list. Put NOW items at the top, listed in the priority of importance. Later items are next, also listed by how important they are to get done before the month is over. Optional items are last. In looking at them, decide if it's really something you must do or can it be delegated? In fact, is it something that really must be done at all?

Bonus Tip: Keep your curated list where you can read it in the morning to train your focus on what is most important and then in the evening before you head to bed so you can pat yourself on the back because you're using your time effectively.

TAKEAWAY TRUTH

The ability to prioritize how you spend your time is a hallmark of success.

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EAT DESSERT FIRST?

Happy Wednesday! Enjoy this Hump Day post. 

When I was a kid, I read one of those funny lines you see on buttons and tee shirts. It said: "Life is short. Eat dessert first."

I think that’s why so many people struggle in life—they want to eat dessert first rather than start at the beginning of the meal and enjoy each course that’s served.

Of course, I’m describing those who want to start at the top and who don’t seem to understand that no one really starts at the top—unless they’re the offspring of the company founder or a prodigy of some sort and perhaps not even then.

PAYING DUES

You know about paying due or whatever you choose to call the process of beginning, making mistakes, and learning. Some way or other, everyone pays their dues. Doctors start as interns before they become the leading doctor at a hospital. First year lawyers start out at the bottom pecking order of law firms. Electricians start out as apprentices. Writers start out as newbies trying to hack out a writing career and build an audience for their work.

Anyone who thinks he or she can jump into a high status position at a corporation or be rewarded by an ownership role in a small independent company—or become a bestselling author overnight—just doesn’t realize what the world is all about.

Whether you’re a corporate accountant, a bank teller, or a writer publishing a first book, you need to understand that success is not made overnight. Success is made by baby steps then bigger steps and sometimes leaps forward every now and then. Consistency of action leads to progress.

If you enjoy each leg of the journey, not impatiently striving to leap over steps, you’ll find more satisfaction in your career—and in life—than someone who is never satisfied and constantly longing for more, more, more.

TAKEAWAY TRUTH

If Life is a seven-course dinner, then savor and enjoy the appetizers before moving on to the soup. The pleasure that comes from each “course” will keep you satisfied and inspired to experience the next stage in your career and in Life when it comes along. That's my 2¢ opinion. What do you think?


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Review - Ride or Die - Prime

Ride or Die, an American TV series billed as action adventure comedy, is an Amazon Prime exclusive.

This new Prime exclusive was created by Tessa Coates, writer, comedian, and one third of the sketch group Massive Dad, and has showrunner Matt Miller with his action acventure creds like the TV series Lethal Weapon and Chuck

Ride or Die stars well-known actors, Octavia Spencer, Hannah Waddingham, Ed Skrein, and Bill Nighy, along with a larger cast you'll find listed below.

PREMISE

Two friends, Octavia Spencer as Debbie and Hannah Waddingham as Judith, have to go on the run from a multitude of highly trained assassins when Judith's secret life as an assassin is exposed.

FULL CAST

Hannah Waddingham is Judith, an English woman with a secret life as an elite assassin.

Octavia Spencer, is Judith's BFF Debbie, an American wife of a member of Parliament (MP).

Ed Skrein as Billy Donovan, is a member of a crime syndicate.

Calam Lynch is Sam, Judith's handler.

Savannah Steyn is Queenie, Judith's tech and weapons specialist.

Jamie Parker is David, Debbie's husband and an MP.

Sylvia Hoeks is Ana, a fellow assassin and former friend of Judith's.

Bill Nighy is The Director, Judith's employer.

Jacky Ido is Jacques, an Interpol agent.

Cathy Tyson is Mrs. Williams, Queenie’s mother who is training her daughter to take over assassin support. Side note: Cathy Tyson is the niece of legendary actress Cicely Tyson.

Camille Chamoux is Colette, a French police officer according to Cast Notes.

MY THOUGHTS

Although this series premiered on July 15, 2026, I didn't watch it until this past weekend. I have mixed emotions about this series. So, let's start with the Pros.

Love the premise—2 women who have been best friends for many years. They think they know everything there is to know about each other, but they don't because 1 is in a dead-end marriage and the other is a paid killer.

Love the settings—from London to Monte Carlo to other European cities.

Love the acting—how can you go wrong with Waddingham, Spencer, Skrein, and Nighy? Waddingham and Skrein together are believable. So is the friendship between Waddingham and Spencer. Nighy has had a lot of experience playing amoral villains with a minute glimpse of human emotion that shows he has a human heart.

Now, the Cons.  Character actions—Too many scenes where characters simply do not behave as humans would act and react. They act and react like cardboard characters that the script says should do or say this in this scene. 

Moving the Plot Forward—Transitions between scenes are eleminated. This happens frequently in today's movie making world.

A character is in a scene doing something then boom. They're in a different location undertaking what the character must need to move the plot forward. This kind of jerks the plot along.

Scene Logic—Characters end up doing things that don't seem realistic given who the characters are as they've been established.

Humor—Billed as an action adventure comedy, this series is amusing in places, but I wouldn't call it a comedy. Action adventure comedy is a hard act to pull off. 

TAKEAWAY TRUTH

Should you watch it or skip it? I picked it because there were no really good options. 

If you watch it for the acting chops, the action adventure with Waddingham really pulling her weight, and don't look for the comedy or the logic, you'll find it entertaining and be clicking next episode every time.

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Monday Magic - Free Answers

What can a Knowledge Base do for you?

Answer questions from curated external sources. That's what WolframAlpha can do for you.

There are 2 modes in which you can query this website: Natural Language and Math Input.

There are 4 columns of listed subjects:

  • Mathematics
  • Science & Technology
  • Society & Culture
  • Everyday Life.

Below each column Category, there are 8 topics shown and a button to click for more topics. If you click on a topic, a screen opens with some common computations or answers shown. You can fill in the information you need. For instance, Under Society & Culture, you can click on Food & Nutrition. An information sceen shows the calories in swiss cheese. Change that to Gruyere and hit enter. Instantly, the nutritional content of Gruyere.

From the simple to the complex, you can find answers to just about anything by using the free website WolframAlpha.

In case you're wondering, the website uses a form of artificial intelligence, but it is symbolic AI, not the modern generative or statistical AI (like ChatGPT). 

In other words, symbolic AI does not guess words based on patterns. It uses rules, algorithms, and curated data to compute exact answers. 

TAKEAWAY TRUTH

Since answers are curated, I think this may be more accurate than many of the answers now given by Google. I know I've found erroneous information when I've researched on Google. What's your experience been since Google began sourcing via AI?

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