Review: When Reality Bites

This rather plain cover conceals some helpful information for those dealing with uncomfortable—if not downright tragic—situations in life.

Holly Parker, PhD, asserts that sometimes, denial is a good thing. In fact, it can actually help you get through difficult times.

When Reality Bites is designed to help you when you're facing tragedy and also help you get past denial if it's keeping you from moving on.

The Truth

Sure, denial can hurt you if you get stuck in a cycle of destructive behavior, but denial is also a way you can keep going when faced with loss and emotional pain.

I've always thought of myself as someone who could face life head-on and keep moving ahead. However, I've been struggling lately. The emotional blows that have come these last few years made me pull this book from the shelf.

I've found myself in the unique position of refusing to think about the possible losses that may lie ahead. I refuse to admit it's possible. I deny the reality of the situation because that's the only way I can get through some days and maintain an encouraging, optimistic attitude that is so desperately needed for me and for those I love.

Denial isn't just a river in Egypt. I found it was a way to get through the days until one is emotionally strong enough to think about what the future may hold when a loved one is gone.

I bought the book because I thought I was wrong to think, act, and feel this way. It was comforting to read that denial can be a much-needed buffer against tragedy. Reality will come all too soon, but in the meantime, I'll use whatever buffer I can find to keep going.

Takeaway Truth

If you're struggling with pain and loss, I do recommend When Reality Bites. If nothing else, it'll make you feel better about denying painful reality and maybe help you get through it.