That's a lie.
Confidence is grown. It's cultivated from effort and experience and accomplishment.
If you want to guarantee that you will fail every time, do these 4 things.
1. Never try to achieve anything awesome.
Why try? That's the self-talk of someone who has already failed. Just be like the other sheep bleating their mournful cry.
If you don't try, how do you know what your limits are? How can you become the amazing person you just might be?
Confidence is grown from effort. You try, you fail, you pick yourself up, and you try again. Repeat as often as necessary until you succeed.
2. Never step outside your comfort zone.
Hey, it's a scary world out there. Why take a risk when you'll probably fail like all the other times? If you don't take a risk, you'll never know what you might have achieved. The only difference between a comfort zone and a grave is the dimensions.
Confidence comes from the experience of trying new things and maybe failing--but learning! So you take what you've learned from the experience and try again. The next time you try something new, you just might succeed. If you don't, then try again.
3. Never dwell on an accomplishment you made. Or any experience in which you're followed through and completed an assignment successfully--only dwell on all the times you're failed.
That's the old glass half-empty thinking. Why pat yourself on the back and relive the positive completion of a project when you can dump crap on yourself for all the times you failed? It's a lot easier to wallow in defeat and self-pity, and you have a lot more companions in that because it's the easiest way to avoid growing.
Instead, give yourself a beaming smile in the mirror and say, "You did a great job." Even if the only thing you did was drag yourself out of bed this morning!
Confidence is grown from accomplishment. Celebrate yourself every time you succeed, no matter how small the victory. Wallow in the pride of accomplishment and really think about how that makes you feel.
Really want to guarantee failure? Just give up and never try. Better to be bold and brave and go for it than to be like a poor little lost lamb.
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